As Valentine's Day approaches 💘, I have a message for those ladies who are struggling with either being single, solidifying a budding new relationship, or keeping an existing relationship. 💯
I have been single now for a little over a year 📆, and this is has proven to be the most important and best time in my life. 🎉My ex was the love of my life, or so I thought. 👫There was never going to be another like him; no one as smart as him, as considerate as him, as thoughtful as him, or as funny as him. 👰🏽We liked nearly all the same things, such as music, movies, books, friends, etc. 💑We clicked instantly. We had similar upbringings, and similar views on life, once again... or so I thought. 🙎🏽I sacrificed time with myself, with my family, with my friends, with my career, and with my pre-established personal goals. 🙍🏽I spent all my time and energy on this relationship, and I was utterly exhausted. 🛌🤕I could not figure out what I was doing wrong, or what I could possibly do differently.😰
Truth is, it didn't matter if it was him or some other guy who made me feel more special than the last: I did not love myself enough to make a healthy relationship work. 👎🏽I also did not trust God enough. I did not trust God to bring me the man that He wanted for my life in a reasonable amount of time-as in, before the age of 45. ⏱👀 So I was willing to go to the ends of the Earth (e.g. NYC streets, self-help books, online relationship blogs, therapists, YOU NAME IT! 😂) for the one whom I thought was meant to be mine.
Well... It. Does. Not. Work.! 🤦🏽♀️I've tried everything, including: